Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
[00:00:04] Speaker B: Yo. It's effective immediately. I'm DJ Head.
[00:00:06] Speaker C: What's up? It's your favorite homegirl, Gina Views.
[00:00:08] Speaker B: Yes. We have special guests in the studio hanging out with us from the Poor Minds podcast, Lex P. Andre, Nicole.
[00:00:14] Speaker C: Hi.
[00:00:15] Speaker B: Hey.
[00:00:16] Speaker D: Thank y' all for having us.
[00:00:17] Speaker A: Yes. I'm excited.
[00:00:18] Speaker D: Me too.
[00:00:18] Speaker B: You are?
[00:00:19] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:00:19] Speaker B: Don't be that excited. Why?
I'm just a Grinch, and it's Christmas Eve.
[00:00:24] Speaker D: I am with.
[00:00:25] Speaker A: You're a Grinch.
[00:00:26] Speaker D: You don't like the holidays?
[00:00:28] Speaker A: Why not?
[00:00:28] Speaker B: It's, like, hella overrated.
[00:00:30] Speaker C: He don't like a lot of stuff.
[00:00:31] Speaker B: I don't like a lot of shit, though.
[00:00:32] Speaker A: Are you serious? Oh, okay.
[00:00:34] Speaker B: Yeah. I'm that guy.
[00:00:35] Speaker A: I'm weak.
[00:00:36] Speaker D: I feel you on that, though.
[00:00:37] Speaker C: This who y' all need to unpack.
[00:00:38] Speaker A: Well, you know what's crazy? I'm not gonna lie. I never liked the holidays either. But I was like, I'm gonna get into it this year. And I decorated my whole house, and it's, like, so Christmassy, and I'm like.
[00:00:48] Speaker B: Oh, you decorating all that?
[00:00:49] Speaker A: Yes, I'm jolly. This is the first year I've decorated in, like, years, so I'm jolly.
[00:00:55] Speaker B: Like, you do the whole shit. Like you do lights on the inside and outside.
[00:00:58] Speaker A: Well, I haven't done no. I didn' lights on the outside. Because I'm gonna be in Colorado for Christmas anyway, so I'm not gonna be at home. But I did, like, my tree. My stairs are all lit up like, I got the whole front room done. It's real nice.
[00:01:09] Speaker C: You have kids?
[00:01:10] Speaker A: No. You just did it TikTok. I got the stockings all up above my fireplace. I got four stockings. I live by myself. Who's four stockings?
[00:01:19] Speaker D: But I feel like it would look crazy if you only put one.
[00:01:21] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying.
[00:01:22] Speaker C: You have names?
[00:01:23] Speaker A: No. I ain't nobody living.
[00:01:25] Speaker C: You not having shit at your house.
[00:01:26] Speaker A: I'm manifesting. I am manifesting with my stockings.
[00:01:30] Speaker C: So no family pull.
No kids, no friends, miss?
[00:01:34] Speaker A: No. Well, I had a friendsgiving.
[00:01:36] Speaker D: Yeah, she was.
[00:01:38] Speaker C: But it wasn't decorated.
[00:01:39] Speaker A: It was decorated. And they really. Oh, that's what it's all about. I got a big nutcracker. His name is Igor. He sits in the corner. It's real nice.
[00:01:49] Speaker C: What's a nutcracker?
[00:01:50] Speaker A: You know, like the nutcracker things, the Christmas things. You never seen a nutcracker?
[00:01:54] Speaker C: I don't like when I ask somebody with something and then they say the name again.
[00:01:57] Speaker A: What? It's a nutcracker.
[00:01:58] Speaker D: Like, you supposed to be like, oh, okay, girl. I still don't know what it is.
[00:02:01] Speaker A: It's literally a nutcracker. It's like, it opens and you crack the nut, you know? They used to call me a nutcracker back in the day.
[00:02:07] Speaker D: Oh, they did one thing about lick. She gonna swear they call her everything.
[00:02:13] Speaker B: That's very interesting.
[00:02:14] Speaker C: One thing I cannot do is decorate my freaking house.
[00:02:17] Speaker A: Really?
[00:02:18] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:02:18] Speaker A: It's a skill, but I don't.
[00:02:20] Speaker C: And that's the thing. Cause stuff look. Things look way easier on TikTok than when I actually do it. I thought I was gonna put some wallpaper up.
[00:02:27] Speaker A: Mm. Girl struggle. You have lost your wallpaper. Wallpaper.
[00:02:31] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:02:31] Speaker D: I returned it, though.
[00:02:32] Speaker C: I see.
[00:02:33] Speaker D: Yeah. That's a difficult thing to do. I feel like it's some little stuff you could do around your house that's like diy and it's kind of easy wallpaper.
[00:02:40] Speaker A: Mm. Mm.
[00:02:41] Speaker D: Bring in the professionals.
[00:02:43] Speaker C: I wrinkled it.
[00:02:44] Speaker A: You did?
[00:02:44] Speaker C: Yeah, I wrinkled it. I returned it and said it came damaged.
[00:02:48] Speaker B: She moved all her shit. She moved all her shit and set up for it and then realized, yeah.
[00:02:52] Speaker C: I taped the walls down. Realized I don't even got a ladder. Ooh.
[00:02:56] Speaker A: That's the first thing you have to get when you move. I always tell people, you need to, like, get a ladder. All the cleaning supplies. Cause you gonna be trying to do stuff, and you're like, oh, my gosh, I can't do this. So, you know. Yeah.
[00:03:06] Speaker B: Do you decorate?
[00:03:08] Speaker D: I mean, kind of, but are you talking about for the holidays or in general, like, decorating my homework? Yeah, I feel like I decorate, but also I love the holidays. Like, I've always been a holiday girl. It's been recently since my dad passed away a few years ago that I feel like I don't really be caring for the holidays, but my whole life, I always enjoyed it. And I think it's because me and him had so many memories. Like, growing up, my dad was one of those people who would put the lights on the outside of the house and we would do it together. We would decorate the Christmas tree and stuff. So, yeah, I try to still put a tree up every year.
[00:03:41] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:03:41] Speaker B: Used to put a tree up.
[00:03:42] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:03:42] Speaker B: Do you have people over?
[00:03:43] Speaker D: Not really. Not really. I don't really be hosting, but I still live in an apartment. I haven't bought a house yet, so.
[00:03:49] Speaker B: You will have people over once I get a house.
[00:03:51] Speaker D: Yeah. I can see myself having, like, events and stuff at my house.
[00:03:54] Speaker C: What's y'? All? Signs.
[00:03:55] Speaker D: I'm a Taurus.
[00:03:56] Speaker A: I'm a Leo. Oh, I don't know what that mean. Every time we do this on every single show. And I'll be asking people, too. And I'm like, I don't even know why I asked that. July or August. August. Okay. I'm a real Leo. I'm in the thick of it.
[00:04:08] Speaker C: I'm a Leo, too.
[00:04:09] Speaker A: Okay. Period.
[00:04:09] Speaker D: When is yours and your birthday?
[00:04:11] Speaker A: August. Oh, August.
[00:04:11] Speaker C: That's why I had to ask. Cause I don't fuck with July Leos.
[00:04:13] Speaker A: Yeah. You know, it's not.
[00:04:14] Speaker D: They different. They are.
[00:04:16] Speaker C: They different. And only Leos understand it. Yes.
[00:04:19] Speaker A: Because I think the bad rap that Leos get, it'd be the July from July.
[00:04:23] Speaker D: Really?
[00:04:24] Speaker A: Cause, you know, people always say, leos love attention. And we always. And like, I don't do anything to get attention. This is just me. And if I'm not getting attention, I'm not gonna throw a fit about it. I'm like, okay, get your shine on. It's not my day today.
[00:04:36] Speaker C: Have you ever walked in a room and everybody just fucking worried about you?
[00:04:39] Speaker A: Oh, my God. Leave me alone. I am not performing today.
Okay? What's wrong with you, Lex? Can I sit in the corner? I don't want to be.
[00:04:49] Speaker D: It's like when you quiet, they assume something is wrong.
[00:04:51] Speaker A: Cause y' all get to lay back.
[00:04:53] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:04:53] Speaker A: Especially them boring ass Capricorns. They be in the corner. Nobody body them.
[00:04:58] Speaker B: You a Capricorn?
[00:04:59] Speaker D: Are you a Capricorn?
[00:05:00] Speaker B: I'm a real cavitar.
[00:05:01] Speaker A: Oh, you. Brad.
[00:05:03] Speaker D: And now it makes even more sense when she said, you don't like a lot of things. Y' all don't like shit.
[00:05:07] Speaker B: I don't wanna do nothing. I don't like nobody.
I don't wanna do shit. I don't wanna participate. I already know I'm new, but tourists, though. Tourists, I think tourists. And I've had. That's not true.
I've had great physical experience with tourist women.
[00:05:21] Speaker D: Okay.
[00:05:22] Speaker A: I could believe that nutcracker.
[00:05:27] Speaker C: We getting that clip.
[00:05:30] Speaker A: Tick tock.
[00:05:31] Speaker C: Gonna love this.
[00:05:32] Speaker B: Oh, man. But not all of it applies to me. All of the Capricorn shit. I just want to work. I don't want to celebrate. I don't want to turn up. I don't want to have fun. I don't want a vacation.
I just want to get rich and chill.
[00:05:45] Speaker D: You a January?
[00:05:46] Speaker B: Yeah. 12th.
[00:05:48] Speaker D: So you a real Capricorn?
[00:05:49] Speaker B: I'm a real. Not them December. Them is like the over the counter Capricorn.
[00:05:52] Speaker D: I agree. I feel like whoever I Feel like the birthdays that are, like, the first half of each sign, people feel like they not, like, real because I'm a tourist. But my birthday is, like, the first or second day of tourist season.
[00:06:05] Speaker C: I'll see you in April. Yeah, y' all not evil. Like, May tourists.
[00:06:10] Speaker D: And that's what I was gonna say. I do feel like most people say they don't like maytors, maybe, like, they're mean and stuff.
[00:06:15] Speaker A: I love my sister to death, but her birthday is May 2nd. And growing up, like, not. I don't wanna say bully, because it's not like, bully. Like, she hated me, and it was serious. It was like she taught me, like, girl, you gonna have to grow some thick skin. But my sister was bad growing up. Like, she was just a bad kid. She used to do little evil stuff. Like I was a bad kid. It's definitely true. It's definitely true.
[00:06:37] Speaker B: All of it.
[00:06:38] Speaker A: What about the May Tauruses? Hell, yeah.
[00:06:41] Speaker C: Cause Maytor is too close to a Gemini.
[00:06:43] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:06:43] Speaker C: Ooh, it is you. Basically a Gemini with the lights off.
[00:06:48] Speaker D: I agree. Now that you put it like that. That make a lot. And ironically, Lex's mom and I had the same birthday, so is she cool?
[00:06:57] Speaker B: My question, I guess, to first of all, congratulations on all the success. You know what I'm saying?
[00:07:02] Speaker A: Thank you.
[00:07:02] Speaker B: There's not a lot of black women in the space.
[00:07:04] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:07:04] Speaker B: And I know y'. All. I saw y' all shit with Joe Budden. Y' all brought that up.
And me and Gina have come a long way as far as doing our thing. But I do acknowledge that there aren't very many black women in the space, especially from a lead capacity. Like, you know, usually it's, you know, in the background or whatever the case may be.
When y' all first started, was that the intention? Did you notice that? Or was that something that you kept in your mind, like, as y' all progressed or when you first initiated?
[00:07:32] Speaker A: It's crazy, because when we started, Drea said, like, I always knew it was gonna be something big. And I just did. I didn't know. I was like, okay, this is fun. Like, I know people are gonna enjoy it, but I would have never would have guessed, like, years later down the road, we would be touring and collaborating with the people that we're collaborating with, having our own TV show. Like, I'm not gonna lie. I didn know what we was doing. I really didn't.
[00:07:54] Speaker D: And for me, I. I don't necessarily think that. I thought we would be touring and stuff. I don't think I was thinking that far into it, but I did know that the show was going to blow up and was going to become big because Lex and I just have really great chemistry. And, like, the conversations that we would have off camera, people will always be like, y' all are crazy as hell. Like, y' all need to be on TV or y' all need to be on YouTube doing something. So I knew that once we started recording our conversations, people was going to love it because it's kind of essentially like, I think our show is you sitting down talking to your home girl.
[00:08:23] Speaker A: Y. Yeah.
[00:08:24] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:08:25] Speaker C: What's the poor mind's origin story?
[00:08:27] Speaker D: The name.
[00:08:28] Speaker C: Yeah, even, like, the name. How y' all got together.
[00:08:31] Speaker D: Oh, okay. So Lex and I, we met in Houston at the strip club. We used to both bartend. It was like, my first bartending gig. I didn't know what the hell I was doing. She was like a veteran bartender. She had it on lock.
[00:08:42] Speaker B: So can you spin that bottle?
Is that.
[00:08:45] Speaker A: You know what I don't got. Actually, I thought I didn't have my bartending skills no more, but we had to do an ad for Taylor Port the other day, and I spanked her ass. I still got it.
[00:08:54] Speaker C: It's like learning how to ride a B.
[00:08:56] Speaker A: Like hell you can't. With the nutcracker. I got it done.
[00:08:59] Speaker B: She doing brand that.
[00:09:01] Speaker D: Yeah, she branded. One thing about her better run.
[00:09:05] Speaker B: Sorry, go ahead.
[00:09:06] Speaker D: But no. Yeah, so we. We love to always say we kind of started off making money together, and I ended up moving to Atlanta. I was living in Atlanta for.
[00:09:14] Speaker A: Is that where poor comes from?
[00:09:16] Speaker D: What Poor?
[00:09:17] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:09:17] Speaker D: Well, because we drink on the show, we would always drink wine.
[00:09:20] Speaker C: Y' all bartenders.
[00:09:22] Speaker D: What?
[00:09:22] Speaker A: That's.
[00:09:23] Speaker D: But that's a good.
[00:09:24] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:09:30] Speaker D: Put that in your nose.
But yeah, so I moved to Atlanta. I was living there for a year. The whole time, Lex and I were still, you know, talking, communicating, and she was saying how she really wanted to. Well, I always knew she wanted to be in media and, like, talk, and she was always passionate about that. We both have degrees in mass communications, too. So she came to Atlanta and she moved there. We was living together for what, like, six months? And again, when we would be outside with people, they would be like, y' all are crazy. Like, y' all need to record this. So we started a YouTube channel at the height peak of everybody doing YouTube. And we was doing all type of. On Can I. Cuz I'm.
[00:10:08] Speaker B: Yeah, Serious.
[00:10:09] Speaker D: Serious. Right.
Okay. So we was doing all type of. We was, like, doing Mukbangs we were doing makeup tutorials. Everything you could think of. We started a little small show called Wind Down Wednesday. And it was like 20 minutes. We was talking about celebrity gossip and stuff. And out of everything we was doing that was probably getting like 100 views. Everything else was getting like three. So it was like, okay, we gonna stick with this. So we kept doing it, and it eventually changed the name to Poor Minds and turned it into a podcast. But it started off as a YouTube.
[00:10:36] Speaker A: Show, which is crazy because I think now in the podcast world, podcasting is still very audio heavy. But with us, it's kind of like a different element. And we've had to bring a different element to our ad deals and things like that because our videos are, like, really are the meat of what we do. Because our audio numbers are crazy, but our video numbers are really crazy. So we have to incorporate both, which they usually don't do. But it's like, okay, y' all gonna include these numbers in here. You know what I'm saying? So it's cool. It's dope.
[00:11:06] Speaker B: Have y' all ever had, like, a disagreement?
[00:11:10] Speaker A: Have we?
[00:11:10] Speaker B: No, not a disagreement, but I'm talking about where y' all didn't, like, you fuck around and not film for a week type shit.
[00:11:15] Speaker A: Oh, no.
[00:11:15] Speaker D: Oh, no.
[00:11:16] Speaker A: Hell no.
[00:11:16] Speaker D: That's one thing that I really think separates us from a lot of other people in the space is we don't let our personal issues stop us from doing what we gotta do. Like, it's been plenty of times where Lex and I wasn't getting along or we might've had an argument. Disagreement. And we still pulled up and recorded. We've never skipped a week.
[00:11:32] Speaker B: That's what's up.
[00:11:33] Speaker A: Yeah, we gotta get to this money.
[00:11:34] Speaker B: I just think that that's a downfall of a lot of people.
[00:11:37] Speaker D: It is, it is.
[00:11:38] Speaker A: And we talked about this all the time. A lot of that is ego. Like, if me and her have a disagreement in our friendship, that has nothing to do with our business relationship or if we get into it and we disagree with something, business wise, it'll be like the next day. And we'd be like, girl, let's go to happy hour. Let's go, E. Like, we don't carry over things to the other ones. So it just. It works like it makes sense for us.
[00:11:59] Speaker C: Do you guys think the show works out so well because of your real life chemistry? Cause y' all just yalls friends. Cause that's how it is with us, really? Like, rather than just putting people together saying, oh, Y' all dope. You dope. Let's do a show. You have to actually have a friendship. Yeah, I agree with your co host.
[00:12:15] Speaker A: And I think too, it's like our friendship really outweighs the business. Like, at the end of the day, like, I cannot do poor minds if me and my friend are not, like, in a good space. You know what I'm saying? And I think that's what shines. Like, people love to see black women having fun. Cause we don't get that. We got baddies, you know, everybody fighting and pranks with each other. We don't want to do that. Like, we not here to harm nobody. We just here to crack some jokes. But if they offered that back, what, for baddies? Yeah.
[00:12:41] Speaker D: Hell, I don't think so. Not at this point. We too old, girl.
[00:12:44] Speaker A: I got a bad knee, too.
[00:12:46] Speaker C: Just a little appearance, though.
[00:12:47] Speaker B: I got a bad knee.
[00:12:48] Speaker C: I don't think they would expect y' all to fight.
[00:12:51] Speaker D: But then you never know. Cause I feel like that's when it's gonna happen. Cause I feel like people will wanna fight us. Cause we don't seem like fighters.
[00:12:57] Speaker A: And then also I just don't think it aligns with our brand. Because I feel like what we wanna represent 50 million with that 50 million.
[00:13:06] Speaker D: Hold on.
[00:13:08] Speaker A: 50 million. I'm like, hold on, Betty, what that bag?
[00:13:11] Speaker B: I'll let her punch me in the face with 50 million.
[00:13:13] Speaker A: 50 million. Oh, we finna squab love.
[00:13:15] Speaker D: Punch me too.
[00:13:18] Speaker A: 40 million dollars and lotto tickets. Crazy nigga.
[00:13:21] Speaker C: I.
[00:13:24] Speaker D: That's what we talk about. That's different.
[00:13:26] Speaker A: Hold on now. You ain't say all that.
[00:13:28] Speaker C: I do understand you with the brand, though. Because I think that those reality shows, the girls that do do it, not no disrespect, but they're not working on anything else in, like, media wise.
[00:13:38] Speaker A: Right, right.
[00:13:39] Speaker C: People like us, we look like clowns.
[00:13:40] Speaker A: Yes, I agree.
[00:13:41] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:13:42] Speaker A: And.
[00:13:42] Speaker D: And then afterwards, I think it's also hard for them to branch out and do other things when you're known from.
[00:13:47] Speaker C: Being a person from baddies.
[00:13:48] Speaker A: Right, right. And it's like a majority of our money comes from working with these companies, having ad deals. So it's like a lot of times they be feeling like poor minds alone kind of pushes it. They be like, uh, I don't know. Cause they be. So imagine if we did something like that where we're fighting on tv. It would be even harder for us to get brand deals. Because just being a black person, a black woman, it's hard to get brand Deals just off of that alone.
[00:14:12] Speaker B: It is.
[00:14:13] Speaker A: So if y' all think I'm gonna be on TV fighting and being the stereotype of what they already try to categorize us as, that would just be taking a lot of steps backwards. Yeah.
[00:14:22] Speaker B: What's the misconception about you individually and then also what is your relationship like with the perception from men?
[00:14:30] Speaker D: A misconception about me is I think people think that I'm more like quiet and reserved and introverted, but I really be outside.
[00:14:37] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:37] Speaker D: Like, I love, I like being at home. Don't get me wrong. So I am a Taurus in that sense. But I really enjoy, like meeting people, mixing and mingling, being, being social. And I think people wouldn't assume that about me. They assume, like the opposite of, I guess, how we are in real life.
[00:14:54] Speaker A: Yeah. I think for me it's kind of the same. I'm more introverted. But I also think just because of the early days of poor minds, people think I'm extremely materialistic. And I'm not at all. Like, I hate that people always connect me with that and I'm not.
[00:15:10] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:15:10] Speaker D: Like, that's what you used to talk about it.
[00:15:12] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying.
[00:15:13] Speaker A: Because I think in my 20s, the things that were important to me then or what I thought was important, they're not anymore. Like I'm 36 now. Like, I don't care about that stuff. So I think as I've grown on camera in front of people, like, they won't let me change and it's so annoying. So I feel like I've grown so much as a person and what I look for in a partner. And it's like they still have that perception of me being like a 28 year old, just being like, okay, I'm outside, I want to go on trips and I want this and I want that. And it's just like it's so much more to life than that for me.
[00:15:45] Speaker D: I personally still love the materials. Don't come at me without them.
[00:15:49] Speaker B: Interesting. Okay, so she just did her whole monologue about fuck that shit. You like? Nope.
[00:15:55] Speaker D: I mean, other things matter more for sure when we're talking about dating and things. But personally, like I said, bring me the things I like. Both.
[00:16:03] Speaker B: Okay. And then from a man, from, I guess from a men's pov, what's the perception that you guys get? Or is there. Do people paint you with a certain brush? Like, other than being materialistic, are men intimidated by you? Do they not approach you? I know the stuff that she deal with. So that's what my.
[00:16:20] Speaker D: Yeah, I don't really think so. But honestly, I was in a relationship for like the past two and a half years. So I haven't really been doing like any dating. But in prior to that, the show wasn't as successful as it is now.
But yeah, I definitely think we intimidate men to a certain extent, but I think we always have. Even before the show blew up.
[00:16:40] Speaker A: Yeah, I think people. Men always say that about me, especially. Cause I'm loud. They always think I'm super aggressive and I'm just like, what's up, nigga? Like. Cause I am like that. But in my relationship.
[00:16:51] Speaker B: What the fuck are you talking about?
[00:16:52] Speaker A: But in my relationship it's different. I'm very cooked, clean. Never smell like onion rings. Like I am.
Yes, I am extremely like that with my man. Like, I'm very soft. I'm very. Like, we still have fun. And I have my moments where we're drinking, we outside and have fun. But. But for the most part, I'm like getting up, cooking breakfast, like very. Cooking dinner. Be at home, like very much like that. But I know on the outside guys could probably think, like, I would never be like that. But I very much am like a cooking clean girl.
[00:17:23] Speaker D: And I'm just real assertive. Like, I think I'm very sure of myself and I know what I want. And I think that can be intimidating to guys. And I've always been that way. Even prior to the success.
[00:17:34] Speaker C: I've always wondered how dating is for other women in this space. Cause I struggle with it.
[00:17:38] Speaker A: Really?
[00:17:38] Speaker D: Why you're such a struggle? I don't know.
[00:17:40] Speaker C: Thank you.
[00:17:42] Speaker A: I don't know.
[00:17:43] Speaker C: Cause they think I'm aggressive.
[00:17:44] Speaker A: Yeah. Really?
[00:17:45] Speaker C: People see me standing on a chair yelling, and then like, well, you know, they think, then I'm from la. They think I'm a crip.
The cup don't help.
[00:17:55] Speaker A: I'm weak.
[00:17:56] Speaker D: It's a prop.
[00:17:58] Speaker C: It's a prop, though.
[00:18:01] Speaker D: The cup is cute though.
[00:18:02] Speaker C: Thank you.
[00:18:02] Speaker A: But I always say I happy that that is their perception of me because it weeds out the whole ass. Niggas. If you scared of this, you don't need to know the real me. Like, this shouldn't scare you off. This is fun. I'm a good time.
So if you seeing me on Poor Minds or the way I am on social media scares you, good.
Because I need somebody that can handle my job. Because my career, I love it. This is a big percentage of my life. So if you can't handle this you don't get the. The softer side of me at all. So I don't be minding. I don't care.
[00:18:33] Speaker C: When you guys were single or both of you? No. You single? You in a relationship?
[00:18:37] Speaker A: Yeah, I'm in a relationship.
[00:18:39] Speaker C: When you were dating, though, did you guys ever experience men bringing up work and wanting to talk about the guests and stuff like that on dates?
[00:18:47] Speaker D: No, I haven't. And I always said I feel like if I did, I would. Like, it would be so cringy. I probably would leave.
[00:18:53] Speaker C: I deal with it all the time.
[00:18:54] Speaker D: Really?
[00:18:55] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:18:55] Speaker D: I know. They just be turning you off.
[00:18:57] Speaker C: It kind of throw up in my mouth a little bit.
[00:18:59] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:19:00] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:00] Speaker D: Coochie dried up.
[00:19:02] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:02] Speaker A: I don't like that. Or, like, when people be feeling, like, the need to name drop.
I hate that.
[00:19:09] Speaker D: Telling you who they know, like, you should be, or.
[00:19:12] Speaker A: I experience this a lot. Like, even when I'm talking to people in conversation, they'll be like, man, you need to let me come on the pod now.
[00:19:18] Speaker D: That happens a lot.
That happens a lot. People like, we'll meet people all the time. And they be like, what y' all do? Y' all look so familiar. I feel like you already know who we do.
[00:19:28] Speaker C: You know who I am.
[00:19:29] Speaker D: And then you tell them, and they like, man, y' all need to let me come on that motherfucker.
[00:19:32] Speaker A: I got something to say. Yeah.
[00:19:33] Speaker D: And it's like, do you?
[00:19:34] Speaker A: Oh, brother.
[00:19:35] Speaker D: Everybody thinks they have so much personality these days. It's actually, like, insane.
[00:19:40] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:19:41] Speaker C: How y' all handle being professional on social media when the Twitter users are being disrespectful?
[00:19:48] Speaker A: I don't. I just log off. I think people forget this is a choice to be online. When I start getting bullied, I hide.
Y' all gonna. Something else gonna happen. Me too.
[00:19:58] Speaker D: I turned my phone off.
[00:19:59] Speaker A: Hell, yeah. Yeah. I guess turning it off. And I go to sleep. Or I'll just go to another app. They don't know what I did over here.
Instagram, have no clue what's going on on Twitter.
[00:20:10] Speaker D: I used to cuss people out all the time. I don't do that no more. I've. I've graduated, but that's how I used to handle it. Now I just be getting off Twitter. I don't even barely be on there. Like, I hate that app. To me, that's the worst app.
[00:20:20] Speaker A: I mean, they're so mean on there.
[00:20:22] Speaker D: They are to us. We could say anything. And they like, you stupid assholes.
[00:20:26] Speaker A: I posted a picture.
[00:20:27] Speaker D: I'm like, damn, All I said was, the sky is blue.
[00:20:31] Speaker A: Literally. I posted a pict picture the other day, and it was like, you know, people were like, just compliment me. And then this one guy just comments. He was like, yeah, but she is six in New York. I said, damn. Why? As me? Yeah.
[00:20:43] Speaker C: Me.
[00:20:43] Speaker B: I ain't even do that.
[00:20:44] Speaker A: I promise, y'.
[00:20:45] Speaker D: All. We say getting tagged on Twitter, it's insane.
[00:20:48] Speaker A: What the heck?
[00:20:49] Speaker C: A six in New York is serious.
[00:20:51] Speaker B: That's crazy.
[00:20:52] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:20:52] Speaker A: They are just unprovoked.
[00:20:54] Speaker B: I want to ask you about standards. Cause you. Cause I mean, they're pretty high these days. Do you think that standards are realistic as far as, like, when you're in a relationship, you just recently got out of one. And I'm not saying that you back outside, but I'm pretty sure you've experienced what it's like out here after being. How long were you in a relationship?
[00:21:11] Speaker D: Like, two and a half years.
[00:21:12] Speaker B: Okay, so do you think that the standards are realistic nowadays? Do you think that they've changed over time? Do you think that we can hit these goals?
Cause I've seen some demands.
Actually, I've personally experienced some demands from a woman, and I was like, yeah, I'm not gonna be able to do that. So, like, what were her demands, if.
[00:21:29] Speaker A: You don't mind me asking?
[00:21:31] Speaker C: Probably standard.
[00:21:33] Speaker A: Did she just say, can we go to dinner? Hell, no, bitch. You ain't getting no steak, bitch.
[00:21:37] Speaker B: One thing we gonna do is try to use you.
[00:21:39] Speaker A: Don't let him use you up.
[00:21:40] Speaker D: He said, we gonna go eat.
[00:21:42] Speaker B: We gonna go eat.
[00:21:42] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:21:43] Speaker B: The show. We gonna go eat.
[00:21:44] Speaker A: Well, you said you didn't like nothing, so how to be sure?
[00:21:46] Speaker B: I don't. I'm not the Trip guy.
[00:21:48] Speaker A: Oh, got you.
[00:21:49] Speaker B: So it was like. It was a no for me. But what are y' all thoughts on standards these days?
[00:21:55] Speaker D: I mean, I think it's good to have standards, but I definitely think that social media has shifted a lot of people's standards. It's kind of like, is this really a standard for you, or do you just want it? Cause you see other people having those standards or other people doing these things? And then sometimes I believe that a lot of the standards that people have, they can't meet them their self. Like, you want to be with a man that does X, Y, and Z, but, like, you ain't really got your shit together sometimes. I could say Lex and I, especially in the earlier stages of our show, we contributed to that a lot. But as I've gotten older and I've evolved a lot as a person. My mind sh. My mindset has shifted a little bit.
[00:22:37] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:22:37] Speaker A: And I.
[00:22:38] Speaker D: But I do think. Cuz I used to have, like, unreal. I don't want to say unrealistic, because the things that I wanted, I would manifest and it would happen.
But the standards that I had and being like, oh, I only want to date this type of guy and that type of guy when I didn't really have much going on for myself yet at the time, I don't know.
[00:22:56] Speaker A: I think standards, you deserve to have whatever standards that you want, right?
[00:23:00] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:23:01] Speaker A: But like she said, I do think, like, sometimes it's getting a little ridiculous. Like, I just think going on a couple of dates, expecting somebody to pay your rent. And I think even for guys like the standards that they want for on a first date, they want to come over and have you cooking and cleaning and doing all this, like, it's getting a little.
[00:23:19] Speaker D: Like it's not realistic.
[00:23:20] Speaker A: It's not realistic. But I think what also is, is scaring men is because a lot of women, we have our standards. And honestly, if you don't meet my standards, I'm okay with being single. Y' all not finna scare me like, oh my God, you're gonna die old. Hey, I am actually okay. I have great friends, great family. It's not the worst thing in the world to not have a man. I promise you. Like, my life is good with my man, but like, if we broke up, it's not the end of the world. You know what I'm saying? So I think they try to scare people with that, but it's just like, like, girl, have your standards, you are entitled to that, but you have to understand what that comes with as well.
[00:23:58] Speaker D: And I also just feel like, like, what you like, but date people that like to do the same things and you don't have to convince them. Like you were saying, you're not really the trip guy. So a problem that I see a lot these days is women want to try to date a guy who already don't be into what they into. And you want to try to force him to be like that when you could just go date the nigga that like going on trips, right? He gonna take you easily and it's not gonna be no pushback because he enjoys those things too. Like, you find like minded people, but women want to start dating men, and same thing with men. Men want to start dating women and try to mold them into being what they want these days.
[00:24:32] Speaker B: So I'll go ahead.
No, I was gonna Ask you about kind of a follow up to that. But do you feel like we have responsibility?
Cause you brought up, you used to talk about that on air. And we've had a situation where we had to bear the brunt of our microphone on being on the radio, right? Like y' all a nationally syndicated radio show, you supposed to. To talk about it like this or say these things. Do you feel responsibility as hosts for your, I guess, platform in a sense?
[00:25:01] Speaker D: Yeah, now I do. Because I think when we were younger, I didn't realize how much influence we have now, especially as big as the show is, I do think we have a lot of influence. So we have to be mindful of the things we say. And I believe that because Poor Minds has become such a big platform, a lot of younger girls, they look back on the older episodes where we used to talk about a lot of things, and then it makes them be like, oh, well, look at where they are now. If this is how they. Then I need to think the same way.
But I've changed and I've changed my mind, you know.
[00:25:30] Speaker A: But yeah, I agree because like I said, it's a lot of the young girls watching. So that's why I've definitely changed my tone on a lot of things. Cause I'm like, you know what? Yeah, I was doing that and having fun back then. And you can have fun, but you need to have your own career, have your own. Stop depending on a man for things. Stop waiting on a man for things. Even with me buying my house. Why would I wait for a man to buy my house? Like, if I get a man, we gonna get another house.
That's just, you know, equity that I have. So we, I preach that. We both preach that so much. Like, have your own. It's very important to have your own and be career focused. So I think our tone has definitely changed and just being open minded. Because even where we are financially, a lot of the people that watch the show aren't where we are financially. You know what I'm saying? So I'm very mindful of the things I say and how we treat people and how we talk. Cause one thing I will say I stopped doing, I stopped calling people broke.
I definitely have. Because even though it's like funny like, oh, when you make her mad, she gonna call you broke. But it's like I would call people broke when I was broke. Cause I'm like, Tay's wanna know one. But I'm gonna get to you first.
[00:26:33] Speaker D: Not I see you right, but now.
[00:26:34] Speaker A: Spiderman me You know what I'm saying? But I feel like now it's just so insensitive because it's very serious. The economy and what's going on right now.
[00:26:44] Speaker B: It's crazy.
[00:26:45] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? So it's like, I'll see a guy tearing me up, going in on me and stuff, and I be wanting to call him broke so bad. But I'm like, I don't have to do that. Life already beating your ass. But I'm very mindful because it could be somebody who's a fan of me or a listener. I'm sorry, I hate the word fan. A supporter of me. And they'll read that comment like, damn, that's how you feel. Just cause somebody don't make money. And I don't ever want to hurt nobody like that or make them feel.
[00:27:06] Speaker B: Has anybody ever said anything like that to y' all personally or dmed you or saw you in person was like, hey, you offended me with this.
[00:27:12] Speaker D: No, I've never had anybody walk up to me and say anything. Normally when I run into listeners, it's always positive.
[00:27:18] Speaker A: Yeah. I will say one time somebody got mad at me. It was so. Not in person.
[00:27:22] Speaker C: No, no, no.
[00:27:22] Speaker A: Not in person. They had sent me a dm. It was like a long message. They had DMED because they was hating the way I talk about my hair. Cause I always be like, ooh, my hair nappy as fuck, bitch. This shit is kinky and mangled. And they were like, lex, I got the same hair texture as you. And it really hurts my feelings. And I was just like, girl, my shit nappy. I ain't say yours was, but both of our hair nappy.
But it was like, okay, you know what? Let me just be mindful. I try to be mindful. But like I said, it's just like. Like it's a slippery slope. It's a slippery slope.
[00:27:50] Speaker C: I think the viewers also, they have, like, we have a responsibility, but the viewers have responsibility too, to not internalize our opinions.
[00:27:57] Speaker A: Yes, yes.
[00:27:59] Speaker C: So it's like even, like how you brought up the broke thing you said, like, for somebody to be in the comments going in, being disrespectful. That's another thing that people think that just because we got microphones and we on camera, that they can disrespect us and talk about us crazy. And now we over here changing the way we move and shit.
[00:28:14] Speaker A: Yeah, because.
[00:28:14] Speaker C: Because you done disrespected me.
[00:28:16] Speaker A: Right.
[00:28:17] Speaker C: And I'm not gonna call you broke, but I'll Call you a bitch.
[00:28:19] Speaker D: Yeah, same now.
[00:28:20] Speaker A: I'm with you on that one, dyke.
[00:28:22] Speaker D: I call you a little bit.
[00:28:23] Speaker C: I love calling me and dyke.
[00:28:24] Speaker D: What.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: Were you telling? They look like a stud. Yes.
That means you got titties. Yes. They don't like that one.
[00:28:35] Speaker D: That is funny as hell. But, yeah, I agree with you because people have the parasocial relationship thing. We fucking people up a lot. They really think they know you because they've watched you for so. And they feel like they in. In a sense, it's a good thing, you know, Cuz you want them to feel like, yeah, this my home, girl, but at the same time, they take it too far sometimes and they have these expectations of you. And I feel like, I'm not your mama. You should have certain expectations of me.
[00:29:03] Speaker C: And that's why. Cuz, like, a lot of the times, like, when I respond back, they'll be like, oh, Gina, I didn't even mean it like that. Or like how you said all your encounters in person have been polite or friendly.
The energy don't be the same.
[00:29:15] Speaker D: It don't.
They'll say it on the Internet, but they not gonna say it in person. If anything, they be like, oh, can we get a pig?
[00:29:21] Speaker C: Yes.
Today is obviously my first time meeting y', all, but I'll be celebrating people wins like they mine, period. When I saw y' all do the Summer Walker promo.
[00:29:31] Speaker D: Oh, yeah.
[00:29:31] Speaker A: Oh, I was so happy. Yeah, I was so happy for y'. All.
[00:29:35] Speaker C: How did that come about?
[00:29:36] Speaker D: It was so fun. So one of our friends, her name is Kelly, and she actually used to live out here, and she worked for rca and she was cool with somebody that was on Summer's team. And so she had reached out to us, and she was like, yeah, they looking for some people to be in the video and do, like, a skit. And I told them that they should use y' all and AET too.
[00:29:54] Speaker A: Aette kind of helped us with that. She's a. A photographer we used to work with. So I think they had came up with the concept, and they were like, we need two girls. And everybody was kind of like, y' all have to get poor minds. Like, y' all have to. So it was a really cool experience. And summer is actually so sweet. It's like, you know, a lot of times you see celebrities online and then you meet them, and it's just, like, such a disappointment. But she was actually really, really sweet.
[00:30:17] Speaker D: She was really nice.
[00:30:17] Speaker A: Yeah, it was very exciting for, like, all of the listeners to see because they were like, oh, my God. Like, we just keep doing stuff. Like, we have a lot of side missions all the time. We be popping up everywhere, doing everything.
[00:30:28] Speaker D: And we improv the whole thing, too. Yeah, we did.
[00:30:31] Speaker C: Really? Yes. Oh, shoot.
[00:30:33] Speaker D: They basically just gave us the. The set list. They gave us the list of names, the features that was going to be on there, and they were just kind of like, do y' all things?
[00:30:40] Speaker A: Yeah, they're like, come up with a conversation. So. So, yeah, it was fun. And then we also did the Kev on stage thing.
[00:30:46] Speaker D: We did improv for that, too.
[00:30:47] Speaker A: Yeah, that was all improv. The safe space. It's on Tubi right now. Tubi.
[00:30:50] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:30:50] Speaker A: Okay, I saw that. So, yeah, I think it's, like, it's just fun that people are recognizing, like, our talent outside of just, like, sitting and getting drunk with your homegirl. Like, we have so many ventures outside of poor minds that we want to do as well. So I think it's just fun being able to branch out and do other stuff. For sure.
[00:31:06] Speaker D: Yeah. And we're excited because we about to go back on Tour, too, in 2026, and we haven't toured in two years, so. So I'm really, really excited.
[00:31:13] Speaker A: Congratulations. Y' all have LA dates.
[00:31:15] Speaker D: Yes, we are gonna have an LA date, but we don't have the date, the actual date yet.
[00:31:18] Speaker B: You just announced that was still sipping.
[00:31:20] Speaker A: Yeah, still sipping.
[00:31:21] Speaker B: 2026.
[00:31:23] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:31:25] Speaker D: A little homage to Houston.
[00:31:26] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:31:27] Speaker C: That is so cute.
[00:31:29] Speaker B: Houston is one of my favorite places to be.
[00:31:31] Speaker A: Really? You like something? I love when you say you like something.
[00:31:34] Speaker B: Now get the fuck out of here.
[00:31:36] Speaker C: How do y', all, being not being from la, being from over there. How do y' feel all feel about LA food?
[00:31:41] Speaker A: I like la.
[00:31:42] Speaker D: I like LA food.
[00:31:43] Speaker A: I feel like. What's that taco truck that we always go to? The.
[00:31:45] Speaker D: I don't like the soul food.
[00:31:46] Speaker A: No. Yeah. Not the soul.
[00:31:47] Speaker D: I feel like I've never had. Maybe y' all could put me on, but I feel like I haven't had really good soul food out here. But the tacos. Because food is amazing. Of course, y' all have, like, really, really nice restaurants.
But, yeah, soul food.
[00:32:01] Speaker B: You got to go to, like, the hood Chefs for the soul.
[00:32:03] Speaker D: Okay, okay, okay.
[00:32:04] Speaker B: You can't really go to, like, the big, big shit.
[00:32:07] Speaker C: Don't go on marrows. No disrespect to whoever's on marrow.
[00:32:10] Speaker A: I'm weak as hell.
[00:32:13] Speaker C: Too many white people.
[00:32:14] Speaker A: I need crack.
[00:32:16] Speaker C: I need smokers in front of my chimney.
I need it to be some shoes hanging from the power line. Little shootout around the corner or something like that.
How do y' all handle guest flirting with you?
[00:32:31] Speaker A: Oh, I don't. As soon as they sit down. What's up, Nick?
[00:32:34] Speaker C: Hey, hey.
[00:32:36] Speaker A: My bro, my bro, that nigga, my homie. I always give off that energy. Always 1000%. I don't do that. None of that.
[00:32:44] Speaker C: Is it because you're in a relationship, or has it always been like that?
[00:32:47] Speaker A: No, I'm just always like that. Like, let's keep it cute. Let's keep it professional. I think the way that we look, people always are always thinking that we're a certain type of way. People love to say the only reason we are here is cause we fucked somebody to get here, or we done dated somebody. And that is not the case, so. And it's never been anybody that I've met that I'm like, oh, I'm kind of interested in him. Like, I think the most person I was probably fangirling about, but it wasn't even like that. Cause he has a girlfriend. Like, I've been a Wiz Khalifa Stan forever, and I just think he's the coolest nigga to walk this planet. So I was probably, like, a little more chill on that episode. But every time people come on the show, it's very homegirl. I call them my nephews.
[00:33:25] Speaker D: I don't deal with it, girl. I just be turning them down politely. Like, I always try to do it in a nice way, but, yeah, I just be turning them down. I'm not interested in talking to somebody that come sit on the couch. Is it because they were a guest?
[00:33:36] Speaker C: Like, if they weren't a guest, would you be open to it?
[00:33:40] Speaker D: Maybe if it was the right person, you know? But I don't think I've ran into anybody that I'm like, oh, I would date them, and they came on the show, but I don't know, girl. We'll see.
[00:33:48] Speaker C: Y' all got celebrity crushes?
[00:33:50] Speaker A: No, not really a celebrity crush.
No. I don't think so. I don't think there's anybody I look.
[00:33:57] Speaker D: At like, o I want sub it. Me either. When I was younger, but now the.
[00:34:01] Speaker C: New is not me.
[00:34:02] Speaker B: Kidding.
[00:34:02] Speaker A: Cute.
They have some cute ones, but we need a new batch. And then I'm old.
[00:34:07] Speaker D: I know God got one somewhere. He just need to drop them off.
[00:34:10] Speaker A: Yeah. I feel like I'm. I'm, like, aging out of that. There's not any, like, because the celebrities that are my age and stuff, they're all married in relationship. The good ones and stuff. So. And then, I'm not gonna lie, this is no shade. But like, it's so crazy. I was talking to my homegirl about this the other day. The athletes that were like popping like in my 20s, like the top notch athletes now, they all that, they're retired, they be kind of lame. You know what I'm saying? Like, you niggas be lame a little bit.
[00:34:36] Speaker B: They kind of lame.
[00:34:37] Speaker A: Like, oh, these mics show a lot.
So it's like once they get on these mics and they have these podcasts, they start talking or they do interviews and it's like, oh my God. Like, be hi. Be high. Shut up, girl.
[00:34:52] Speaker B: Okay, you don't have to say who it was, but what's the lamest thing you've. Like, I just need an example of something lame that'll come.
[00:34:58] Speaker A: Um, a lot of times, like, they be talking, like, how they treat women. Like, how. Like, I think it's weird that you brag about not taking a woman on a date. Like, stuff like that, like making a woman audition. Like, we can get to know each other over some dinner. It's not that serious. A happy hour. Like, it's not even that serious. So it's just crazy seeing these men just act like I don't do nothing for a woman, like bragging about it or like, you know what I'm saying? Brag about being controlling and things like that. Or just like, like, like I said, calling women broke and just. It's just that weird relationship, woman versus man conversation that I'm tired of. So it's weird to see them join in on that. And I'm just like, wow, I just thought like that.
[00:35:40] Speaker D: Yeah, I agree with you. I. I just miss the days where like celebrities and athletes and stuff, they existed and they were like these beings and we didn't know nothing about them. We were just fans of the sport, the talent. These days, we know too much about each other. So I agree with her. Like, you will see people online sometimes. You like, okay, you a little corny. You probably should just be quiet. Turn the m. Yeah, yeah, I can see that.
[00:36:03] Speaker B: Also, congrats on travel queens.
[00:36:05] Speaker A: Thank you.
[00:36:06] Speaker B: I think that's a big deal as well. Like, we don't see a lot of us in that space.
[00:36:10] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:36:11] Speaker B: You know, headlining TV shows.
[00:36:13] Speaker A: Right.
[00:36:14] Speaker B: How did that happen? And then also I have a follow up question, but how did that come about? Like, as far as putting that together.
[00:36:20] Speaker D: I think the production company had ended up reaching out to us actually this time last year. And they were telling Us. They had an idea for a travel show, and they wanted it to be basically, like, two girls that are friends go going to these different countries, these different places, and showing, like, the black culture in places and spaces that you wouldn't typically think. It's a lot of black culture there. So we had to audition. We auditioned. We pretty much knew today. Yeah, they loved us. So we knew we probably had it. And then, like, a month later, we started filming. It was a really quick process.
[00:36:51] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:36:51] Speaker D: And then, of course, it got picked up by bet and it dropped, like, four months after we filmed it.
[00:36:58] Speaker A: And it's so crazy. Cause it's, like, completely opposite of poor minds. Like, it's just us traveling, having fun. It's like, it's still our dynamic. And that's one thing I was scared about, because I know I've had a lot of friends and people in the industry that have done tv, and they're like, oh, my gosh. They edited so bad I couldn't be who I was. But they really let us be who we are, just in a different setting. So it was an amazing process to be a part of. And it is such a good show. I tell people that all the time. Like, y' all really have to watch it. It's still on Hulu. You can.
You gotta do the. What is it? Bet. You gotta get the.
[00:37:30] Speaker D: Bet her.
[00:37:31] Speaker A: The Bet her add on, or however you watch. Bet her. It's actually a really dope show. And like I said, I just love seeing black women travel. Anytime I see, like, travel groups or things like that. So I was really excited for the public to really see us in a different light. You know what I'm saying? So it was a really good experience.
[00:37:48] Speaker B: Are you okay with traveling solo? Cause I'm not. I don't fuck with that shit. Like, if Jeannie was like, I'm finna go to Columbia, she not gonna do that. But if she was like, I'm going to Colombia and I'm going by myself, I know people. I know a lot of black women. Women who do that. And I'm not with that shit.
[00:38:02] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:38:02] Speaker B: So I don't. How do y' all feel about it?
[00:38:04] Speaker D: I'm not big on it. I have done it.
[00:38:06] Speaker B: You have? Where'd you go?
[00:38:08] Speaker D: I went to Columbia, actually. That's why it's funny that you said that.
[00:38:12] Speaker B: Why do y' all niggas want to go fuck with the. With the. The cartels and.
[00:38:15] Speaker D: Well, I went to get my teeth done. I went to get veneers. This was, like, 2022. So I went by myself. I was there for like three days.
But I will stay. I will say I stayed within, like the premises I was supposed to be in. I didn't travel or venture out.
[00:38:29] Speaker B: You stayed on the villa.
[00:38:32] Speaker D: The hotel that I was staying at, it was actually like connected to this mall and it was in like a nice area. Then the dental office was maybe like a five minute Uber away. So I kind of just stayed within that area and explored.
[00:38:43] Speaker B: But you're not gonna go ziplining in the jungle.
[00:38:46] Speaker D: Not by myself.
[00:38:47] Speaker B: Like, I know people who do that type of.
[00:38:49] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:38:50] Speaker A: My best friend is actually like a big traveler. She travels by herself all the time. Like, she got up, went to Barbados and ended up staying there for like a year. I like, that's the type of girl she is. Now domestically, I have taken solo trips, like, you know, to Miami a little. You know, I'll do little stuff like that, but I don't really feel comfortable traveling outside of the United States by myself. But also, like, I talk too much. I need somebody to talk to. Like, I gotta go. We gotta have conversation. We need to go have some conversation.
[00:39:17] Speaker D: Somebody at dinner with you?
[00:39:18] Speaker A: Yes. I love to talk. I cannot spend too much time by myself.
[00:39:21] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:39:22] Speaker B: Okay, Follow. Follow up to. This is. So when I have an associate and she's a doctor, she's a therapist, okay. And she posts her travel expats all the time. And I'm telling her, like, you need to make a separate page. And she's like, why? Like I said, because I don't want my medical professionals living life.
[00:39:40] Speaker A: I agree.
[00:39:41] Speaker B: I'm just being honest. I know that sounds.
I know that sound fucked up, like, when you say it aloud. But think about if you finna go get your teeth done or you about to go have a surgery or something. Something. I don't want to see my doctor, like, jumping off the. The abandoned boat in the Dominican Republic two days before he finna like, cut me open. My. Like, I'm cool on that type of shit. So.
Okay, you agree. But.
[00:40:03] Speaker A: But I'm like, but maybe, I mean.
[00:40:04] Speaker D: You know, maybe that's his release. Maybe that's gonna put him in the mindset so that he could do a good job at cutting you open.
[00:40:10] Speaker B: I agree with you, but I don't give a fuck.
I don't want you having, like, I don't want you. I don't want to see your kids busting open the pre.
I need you.
I want the delusion in my mind to think that you're working on curing. Cancer every day.
[00:40:23] Speaker A: Not every single day.
[00:40:25] Speaker B: Every day.
[00:40:25] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:40:26] Speaker D: I strictly split.
[00:40:27] Speaker A: But no, I agree with you. It's kind of like what you were saying earlier. We know too much about each other. I imagine my doctor when she goes home, that she just opens a book.
[00:40:35] Speaker B: Facts.
[00:40:35] Speaker A: How can I make Lex healthier?
[00:40:37] Speaker C: Facts.
[00:40:38] Speaker A: And that's all you do until I see you again in six months.
I agree with you 1,000%. I. I think it's so crazy. And that's with any career, though. Like, I had worked with somebody and I was just like, why is this your social media? Why are you partying? You're supposed to be getting stuff ready for poor minds.
[00:40:57] Speaker B: There you go.
[00:40:58] Speaker A: What are you doing?
[00:40:59] Speaker B: Facts.
[00:40:59] Speaker A: This is not okay.
[00:41:02] Speaker D: I feel like I do too.
[00:41:04] Speaker A: What is going on?
[00:41:06] Speaker C: It must have been that videographer.
[00:41:10] Speaker B: That's why that nigga not here. Yeah, that's crazy.
[00:41:13] Speaker C: I cut off my escape cause I ran into her at a day party.
[00:41:16] Speaker A: Oh.
[00:41:17] Speaker B: See what I'm saying?
[00:41:18] Speaker D: Cause I didn't want.
[00:41:19] Speaker C: I didn't want nobody in a day party to know what my JJ look like.
[00:41:23] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:41:23] Speaker C: You know, like, I'm not finna be shotin up. And you know what my vagina look like.
[00:41:27] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:41:28] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:41:28] Speaker D: I'm only supposed to see you within them four walls.
[00:41:30] Speaker B: So is that okay? The wax lady, like, imagine you at happy hour, y' all at brunch, y' all swag surfing and shit.
And the lady that do your Brazilian is like in there like. Like, she gotta go.
That's not okay.
[00:41:47] Speaker D: I guess I never really thought about it like that. But now that y' all saying it, that would be a little awkward. That's not okay, honestly.
[00:41:54] Speaker C: And that's not like that. I'm all for black businesses, but that's why I stopped booking black estheticians.
[00:41:59] Speaker A: Cause they be outside.
[00:42:00] Speaker C: Cause you gonna home, girls. Yeah, we partying in the same circles.
[00:42:06] Speaker D: We in the same space, y'.
[00:42:08] Speaker C: All.
[00:42:08] Speaker B: Right, see, we changed their mind.
[00:42:10] Speaker A: Y' all did.
[00:42:11] Speaker C: It's like seeing your teacher in the grocery store.
[00:42:12] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh.
[00:42:13] Speaker C: I hate it. That always was weird.
[00:42:15] Speaker D: Yes, it was.
[00:42:15] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:42:16] Speaker C: I hate teaching.
[00:42:16] Speaker A: Right, everybody, your classmates. I hate running into people from school.
[00:42:21] Speaker C: How do your classmates treat you guys now?
[00:42:25] Speaker A: I'm still really close with my classmates from high school college. I was actually very not into the college thing. I never lived on campus. I was very quiet in class. So now, now my high school friends, they're not surprised at what I do for a living. My college friends, they were like, oh, my God.
[00:42:40] Speaker C: They didn't know you was a class clown.
[00:42:41] Speaker A: They did not know that. So I think, like with my high school friends, the relationship is still the same. Like, I'm still. I'm not this Lex P. From poor mines to them, you know, I think my college friends. Cause I'm not as close. They're more like, oh, my God, girl, let's hang out. No, bitch, no. You know what I'm saying? But I don't think I get treated differently.
[00:43:01] Speaker D: I still have a few friends from high school. And even just people that were associates that I knew in high school and college, they're all really supportive. Like, people are always leaving comments like, oh, my God, I'm so proud of you. They be sending me dms and stuff all the time. Like, everybody is really nice about it. It's not no weird energy now.
[00:43:18] Speaker A: The exes be the weird man. I fumble, bro. That was my.
We dated in third grade.
[00:43:25] Speaker D: Relax. Let it go.
[00:43:26] Speaker A: Like, please.
[00:43:27] Speaker B: I'll let you use my pencil sharpener.
[00:43:28] Speaker A: Yeah, like, let's stop that. They love to say, oh, me and Lex P used to talk. Shut up, girl.
[00:43:34] Speaker B: No, no. Women do that shit too though.
[00:43:35] Speaker A: They do.
[00:43:36] Speaker B: I've been in three relationships I didn't know about.
[00:43:37] Speaker A: No, that's right.
[00:43:39] Speaker D: I believe that though. It's like people wanna attach theyself to you, the bigger you get.
[00:43:43] Speaker A: Yeah, it's crazy.
[00:43:44] Speaker B: My last. Oh, go ahead.
[00:43:45] Speaker C: I was gonna say my favorite compliment from people from my past though, is, I knew this with you. I always knew that this was your cheese.
[00:43:52] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:43:52] Speaker C: Like, this is perfect for you.
[00:43:55] Speaker B: My last question for you is, can the soft exists while in survival mode? Cause I know a lot of women in survival mode. Can you still be soft and not calling niggas broke and, you know, being aggressive?
Can they coexist?
[00:44:12] Speaker D: I don't really think so.
[00:44:14] Speaker A: I think it can. Cause it depends what you consider soft. Like, you know, taking care of yourself. I think even if you are in survival mode and you're working and you're hustling, you can still take the time off to, you know, relax, enjoy yourself, enjoy the process of the journey. You know what I'm saying? I think with me, when I was. I think about when I was in survival mode, I could have made it a lot smoother for myself by not stressing myself out and doing things. And I think that you can progress to a different chapter in your life and take a softer route and just be nice to yourself. I think that's a soft life. Being kind to yourself, being nice to yourself, taking a break Sometimes, like, I don't. Like I came when we started. Poor minds. It was like the era of I don't sleep, hustle all day. You gots to get it.
[00:44:59] Speaker D: Y' all remember workflows?
[00:45:00] Speaker A: Yes. Like all that stuff, like, hustle hard, get it. And you do.
[00:45:04] Speaker B: Never. Not working was mine.
[00:45:05] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:45:06] Speaker D: Like, you lose the hell out the head.
[00:45:07] Speaker C: Like, take a nap, take a break.
[00:45:09] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? I think that's if I could change anything. Yeah. Well, I mean, we work very hard, but one thing about me, I'm going to take a break and I'm like, a lot nicer to myself. Cause even though we have reached a lot of success, sometimes I still be like, damn, we're not doing enough. I'm not doing enough. And I have to stop myself and be like, girl, look how far you've come. So I think that you can live a soft life, depending on what your definition of it is. You can't look on social media and be like, oh my God, that is the only definition of a soft life. I think living a soft life is relaxing and taking care of yourself, whatever that looks like.
[00:45:43] Speaker D: I more so am looking at it from the standpoint of like, how can you be soft if you constantly in survival mode? Like, if you always having to worry and everything is on your back to make it happen.
I don't understand. I don't really feel like you could be soft as a woman under those type of circumstances. And especially these days with the economy and everything, especially with black women, a lot of things be on our back.
[00:46:05] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:46:07] Speaker D: If you don't have no help, if you don't have no alleviation and everything is on you, I can understand why they be like, women be angry and mad.
[00:46:14] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:46:15] Speaker C: I think we were taught that though.
[00:46:17] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:46:18] Speaker C: It's a thing that as a woman, as a black woman, you have to be strong.
[00:46:22] Speaker D: Right?
[00:46:23] Speaker C: Y What's something that you guys are unlearning learning right now? Because that's one thing that I'm unlearning right now.
[00:46:28] Speaker D: I think that it's okay for me to be weak. To be honest, I could cry.
I'm the same way, girl. Because I don't really wear my emotions on my sleeve. Like in a lot of people that watch our show, they'll say, like, Lex is a little more vulnerable and transparent. I think same thing that you just said. That's not how I was raised. My mom always taught me, even though I did grow up in a two parent household with my dad too. My mom always taught me, you need to be independent. You need to be strong. And I'm starting to realize as I get older, it's beauty and softness and vulnerability. Like, sometimes you can let people in and let them know that everything is not always perfect.
[00:47:02] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:47:04] Speaker A: I think for me, I'm learning that I don't have to take care of everybody just because I'm the successful one.
I don't have to give you money just because I have it. I don't have to give you a job just because maybe I have an opportunity or. You know what I'm saying?
I don't owe anybody anything.
And I think that's the thin line, too, because I always have empathy for a lot of people struggling right now. But it's just like, I was there and I worked my ass off. You know what I'm saying? I had to figure it out. So a lot of times, I don't want to be a crutch to people in my life as well. So I think I'm learning to say no. And it's not my responsibility. I don't have children. I'm not married. I. I built my life. Exactly. I curated my life perfectly for me. I love the hell out of my life.
[00:47:52] Speaker C: You sound like me in the sister group chat right now.
[00:47:55] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:47:56] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:47:57] Speaker A: I love it. It's the sibling group chat right here.
Y' all got me fucked up. That's what I say. I'm like. I live my life to where, like, if I want to wake up tomorrow and go to Tokyo just because I can, and I want that life for me, you know what I'm saying? So I don't add any more responsibilities to my plate.
[00:48:14] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:48:14] Speaker A: My responsibility is myself, and I enjoy that way. So it is a little selfish, but I can be selfish. I don't have children. You know what I'm saying?
[00:48:22] Speaker D: Resources. Why do you feel like you feel like you always have to help people?
[00:48:27] Speaker A: I think it's just because.
[00:48:29] Speaker C: Do they guilt you into it?
[00:48:30] Speaker A: No, they really don't. But I feel so bad. Like, I still have a problem with saying no. I'm really not all the way there yet. Because I guess I feel so bad. Bad because I do look at my life like, man, if I had a Lex P when I was struggling, oh, my gosh, life would be so much easier. So I try to be that helping hand that I never had. But it's like, it comes to, like, a point, you know what I'm saying? So I'm trying to learn how to do it the right way. To where I'm not exhausting myself, cuz.
[00:48:56] Speaker D: You don't want to overextend yourself too.
[00:48:58] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:48:59] Speaker B: I really appreciate y' all coming.
[00:49:01] Speaker C: Thank you.
[00:49:02] Speaker B: You know, hanging out with. Oh, sorry. Do one more. You got the. The cards?
[00:49:06] Speaker C: I don't have the car.
[00:49:07] Speaker B: She don't got the car.
[00:49:08] Speaker A: Damn.
[00:49:09] Speaker D: We was gonna play a little game.
[00:49:10] Speaker C: Yeah, I made a card game. I have another show called Professions.
[00:49:14] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:49:14] Speaker C: I'll get into the rapper's business.
So I made a little messy car game.
[00:49:18] Speaker A: Damn.
[00:49:19] Speaker C: It would have been so cool to play with y'.
[00:49:20] Speaker A: All.
[00:49:20] Speaker C: But that's.
[00:49:21] Speaker A: I was like, you probably good, because my messy ass, baby, I wouldn't have got to it.
[00:49:25] Speaker C: Y' all will be back, though.
[00:49:27] Speaker A: Yes, we definitely, will definitely be back. Because like I said, we're going on tour. So y' all make sure y' all go to poorminds.com register. We are dropping the dates very, very soon. So we are coming to a city near you. We going to a lot of cities. So y' all make sure y' all go check that out.
[00:49:41] Speaker C: I want to do instead of an interview with them again, like an actual. Our actual pod show.
[00:49:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:49:47] Speaker C: About topics and stuff.
[00:49:49] Speaker A: Yes. To vibe out.
[00:49:50] Speaker B: Yeah. When you come back, we'll do that for sure. You have to come back.
[00:49:53] Speaker D: We're coming back.
[00:49:54] Speaker A: We're definitely coming back.
[00:49:55] Speaker D: We do. We come to LA a few times a year. And I feel like with the way everything is going with our careers now, now I. I feel like we're about to start coming here way more often.
[00:50:03] Speaker A: For sure.
[00:50:04] Speaker C: Move out here.
[00:50:06] Speaker A: Okay. You questioning?
[00:50:07] Speaker D: Well, I actually do get a place here.
[00:50:09] Speaker B: Yeah, you should.
[00:50:10] Speaker A: Now I want to get, like. I would get, like, a place out here to have, but I wouldn't, like, live full time out here.
[00:50:17] Speaker D: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:50:18] Speaker A: I'm a Southern girl.
I love the south, baby.
[00:50:22] Speaker C: I want to keep eating tacos.
[00:50:23] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. I can't do it. Y.
[00:50:25] Speaker B: Some ceviche.
[00:50:26] Speaker A: I do like ceviche now.
[00:50:28] Speaker B: I'm trying to get some of that right now. But thank y' all for coming through. Lex P. Andre. We really appreciate y'. All.
Congrats on all the success. And y' all promise to come back. Yes, we look forward to that.
[00:50:40] Speaker C: Thank you.
[00:50:41] Speaker B: It's effective immediately.
